Therapy??
I was just sitting here not able to sleep and was wondering how many
of you are in therapy. My doc didn’t even talk to me about it.
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I was just sitting here not able to sleep and was wondering how many
of you are in therapy. My doc didn’t even talk to me about it.
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August 28th, 2004 at 1:07 pm
Quoting Heather Richard:
I jumped into therapy at the same time that I got really, really serious
about getting my depression into remission. ‘Course, I was between a large
chunk o’concrete and an even bigger granite boulder. My husband of 12
years told me out of the blue over the Sunday paper earlier that week that
he wanted out of our marriage. It went sort of like this — Me: “Can I
have the comics when you’re done? Want some more coffee while I’m up?
YOU’RE…WHAT????” =O Then I proceeded to have a crying screaming sweating
throwing up swearing hissy fit meltdown cuz I had no idea it was anywhere
on the horizon. Needless to say, he never was really good about
communicating his feelings…he told me all this while he was cutting his
NAILS! It was probably best he was using clippers and not scissors.
At first, the therapy was to save the marriage and get him to come back. It
was very, very hard work. Definitely not for wussies. Later, I realized it
was really for me, not the lame-o I was married to and why the heck would I
want him back after that, anyway? Duh! That was four years ago. I was
going twice a week for a long time, now I see my pshrink about once a
month, if that, for 20 min.
I’ve noticed that when I’m depressed, I create situations to explain why I
feel so crappy. Drama Queen, if you will. It’s not enough for me to
realize that I feel bad because of the Depression, not depressed because
*things* are bad. Now, I know that I can feel crappy and not be Depressed,
or be down a little and know my life is just fine! This needs
reinforcement, however. Otherwise, I just magnify situations and put
*myself* into a downward spiral. My pshrink describes it as depression
with a little “d” or depression with a big “D”. Does that make sense?
I agree that if the chemical imbalance is not treated, therapy probably
won’t do much good. I went to therapists on and off (mostly off) for so
very long, but until I was medicated, I couldn’t get into remission. When
I found a dr. who was very aggressive about finding the right combination
of meds for me, he was also great about therapy to keep me motivated and
coming back during the many drug trials. That, and he has helped with the
Divorce That Would Not Die, but that’s another post!
–
Diane Brunet
http://www.sassysuds.com
http://www.inetworld.net/dlb2
August 29th, 2004 at 11:55 am
Quoting Tim Wenninger
yours are. Mine were 17 and 20. My oldest is still angry with the former
husband and won't speak with him, which is quite a trick considering that
they have been teaching the same taekwondo class two nights a week since
forever. Patrick, my oldest, has been in Iraq with the Marine reserves
since April. They haven't communicated since he left. They were never all
that close to begin with. My youngest son considers him "Dad" since Shane
was only three when Dave and I met and five when we married.
Things are much different now than a year after we split up. It was so
very hard and I found myself just trying to get through 10 minutes at a
shot. I was taking Wellbutrin at the time and it added anxiety in addition
to what I already had.
Keep going to therapy even if she doesn't. It'll help you grow and learn
and get through all of this, even if it doesn't fix your marriage. Someone
told me once that it takes two people 100% each to make one work, but only
one person to break it. You can't change her, but you can change yourself.
Best wishes to you. It'll get better, it just takes a lot of time.
Congrats on your decision to treat your depression.
--
Diane Brunet
http://www.sassysuds.com